body language can be very hard to read especially with a pracitced liar. Also statistics show that most of those who think they can tell when someone is lying are actually wrong the vast majority of the time. So for those of you about to post that you can always tell because their eyes do this or do that, that means nothing. My boss recently displayed all the signs of lying but turned out to be telling the truth, My co worker on the other hand I believed even though she was really lying. So does anyone have a fool proof method that is fairly reliable? I think asking the person the same questions about the same story repeatedly is a good idea since if they are lying their story will change.
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If they are good liars, their stories don’t change. Working in a prison, people would tell great lies, especially when they did not know I researched what they did. Anyway, the only advice about telling if people are lying is this, If an inmate is talking, he is lying.
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uhh, I don’t think there is a "fool proof" method. Your own experience shows that fact. I think one thing to take into consideration is how well you know the person. You might ask someone to assist you if it is possible. Maybe they could get more or better info, or if you can’t get someone else to help, what can you do, anyway….hook up a lie detector?
if they won’t look you in the eye and if they like roll their eyes and if they go umm wait I forgot and take like a sec to think also try asking them questions like if they said they saw a movie when they didn’t be like oh tell me what happend
I think you need to know the person well, in the first place. I think that people who are simply unsure of themselves come across to people as liars, even when they tell the truth. It can be very frustrating (speaking of my own past). Police interrogators and psychiatrists use a method called kinesic interviewing, which you must study well to be good at. There are never just a few things that point out that a person is lying or telling the truth. Some people may just be exhibiting quirks. You need to pay attention to the whole picture. What they say (is it plausible, do they contradict themselves), as well as how they say things. Stan Walters, a former FBI agent, has a text book out that police use for training, but it’s about $80 US.
Instinct. That’s the only fool-proof way of catching a liar.
There’s no other way. People have caught on by now; they – and myself included – *know* how to lie and not get caught. The first rule is to believe what you say. For instance, when you tell the boss you’re sick while all you want is a day off, you have to believe you’re sick, you have to sound sick.
Another less fool-proof way of catching a liar is by asking tough questions that can expose them, but very subtly, and very fast so they won’t know what hit them.
Here’s one scenario; I once lured an ex boyfriend of mine into exposing himself as a liar years ago when he told me he had a child somewhere. I first pretended to feel sorry for him, and get some false guilt out of him, make him believe I was truly sad about the situation, and then – when he least expected it – I calmly asked him the child’s name. He couldn’t answer to that, so I added another thing; I asked if I could see a picture – but in such an innocent way that it actually sounded like I was simply interested rather than suspicious. Strangely enough he seemed to have lost the picture too. So either he’s a bad father or a good liar…
Another way peopel can get away with telling lies is by confusing people. I always tell people I’m a good liar; even though I never lie. That way I can tell the truth and people will still think it’s a lie. Then when I tell a lie, and tell them it’s the truth for a change – and usually the lie would sound different from the truths I tell – they will actually believe me.
And so forth.
ask them if they are lying then ask really, are you sure, ur positive, i fuckin kill you if you dont tell me the truth
then they will tell you hopefully(or call the police)
It depends.
There are people who are really good at it, and people who can’t lie convincingly to save their lives.
There are people who can fool "lie detectors" — especially if they have no conscience, or if they use a few tricks.
(Be nervous when you’re telling the truth, and relax when you’re lying — that way they get a mish-mash on the graph, and can’t tell. Or so I’ve been told. Who knows, maybe they were lying!)
AND there are people who are better at reading people, and people who (like me, unfortunately) are oblivious to the subtle cues a lot of people give off.
Nearly everyone believes a sociopath, because they have no conscience to betray them.
There’s that great line of George Costanza’s to Jerry Seinfeld, "Remember Jerry, it’s not a lie if YOU believe it."
Given that people have different mannerisms (in how they move their eyes, for instance), and a lot of differences in things that people consider to be signs of lying, I doubt that anyone can ALWAYS tell the difference with all people.
Those books that talk about how to tell are assuming that everyone has the same style, and same level of energy and nerves, and moves their eyes the same way.
There’s too much variation for those sorts of things to be infallible.